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Men are often reluctant to talk about their needs in intimate relationships.

Whether social conditioning or an inability to communicate our needs are to blame, men (who tend to be the less communicative partners in intimate relationships) are prone to silently suffering when their emotional needs aren’t being met by their partners.

Whether you are a man or a woman reading this article, this will give you greater clarity into yourself/partner and what your/their needs are in your intimate relationship.

Let’s put an end to the needless fighting due to miscommunication, the unnecessary sex-less nights, and the verbal shut-downs.

Read through these tips and I promise you’ll never see your relationship through the same lens again.

Here are seven things all men need in a relationship.

7 Things All Men Need In A Relationship

1. Praise And Approval

Men have infamously tender egos.

We need frequent reassurance about ourselves, our career paths, our efficacy as partners, our sexual prowess, and our attractiveness (among other things).

I have countless male clients telling me every month that their partners rarely let them know what they like about them.

While it may be true that men need relatively less frequent verbal praise than their female counterparts, this isn’t the kind of gesture that requires keeping score. Why not just have more of a good thing?

So ladies, let your praise loose. Tell your man exactly what you find attractive about him. Let him know what physical features of his are your favourites. Tell him how attractive you find it when he says something a certain way, when he accomplishes something, or when he takes you on a date. Your praise won’t make him cocky; it will help him feel loved.

And (bonus) the more you praise his positives, the more you will see them.

2. Respect

Men feel respect as love.

If he feels like you disapprove of him, his career, or the things that he believes to be integral to who he is as a person, he will have a hard time trusting and

loving you.

The thought process behind that being “If she doesn’t respect who I am at my core, then how can she really want what is best for me?”

If a man’s partner doesn’t respect his path or mission in life, then he will find it very difficult to feel other than an anxious need to distance himself from her.

3. A Sense Of Sexual Connection

Men and women both connect through sex and communication, but generally, women connect better through communication and men connect better through sex.

Does this mean that men need to have sex with their intimate partners every day in order to feel connected? Not necessarily.

Men, more often than not, connect through indicators of sexual access just as much as they do through sex.

Allow me to explain…

Often, a man will initiate sex just to make sure that you are still sexually available to him. So, to my man-loving readers out there, if he reaches across the bed for you, even showing the willingness to embrace him, to kiss him deeply, and to romantically engage him could be enough to make him feel loved (not that the follow through isn’t enjoyable).

This lack of awareness around women needing to connect through words and men needing to connect through sex can sometimes turn into an unfortunate and rapid downward spiral. She doesn’t feel like opening sexually until she feels connected to him, but he finds it difficult to communicate with her because they haven’t been physical with each other in days.

Talk with your partner and ask what specifically helps them feel the most loved so you can avoid these unintentional standoffs.

4. Emotional Intimacy

From a very young age, men are taught to avoid appearing weak at all costs. Perceived “weakness” includes things like complaining, divulging fears or concerns, and expressing self-doubt or worry.

A man’s partner is his safe space to fall. He can expose the cracks in his armour and allow his partner to help him heal.

Just as women need to slowly open up sexually within a relationship, men open up over time emotionally.

He needs to make sure that when he first cries in front of you, you won’t be repelled or handle it poorly. If you push him away or are unable to be nurturing when he needs it the most, he will no longer trust you with his emotions. He will remove himself somewhat from the relationship.

In this instance, both partners lose- he goes on silently suffering and believing that he is flawed in his imperfection, and she is held at arm’s length emotionally.

5. Space

Author Deborah Tannen has written brilliantly on the

masculine and feminine divide between independence and intimacy (masculine being primarily drawn towards independence and the feminine toward intimacy).

Within all of my relationships and the vast majority of my clients, I consistently see that it is the feminine-associated female partner that wants more time spent together and the masculine-associated male partner wanting more time apart. There is no perfect balance to be found here. This will always be a balancing act of closeness and separateness.

But rest assured, suffocating a man (either by failing to allow him free time or with overly jealous behaviour) is the fastest way to end a relationship. Men need breathing room in a relationship. We need time for our hobbies, time with our friends, and time to toil away on our projects to feel fulfilled.

Traditionally, when women (or the feminine associated partner) needed to solve a problem, they would go further into the tribe – connecting with close friends and family and discussing their issues. Conversely, when men have a problem to solve, they would leave the tribe to be alone with their thoughts.

So let him roam. Let him breathe. Leave him to his own devices. A man will be that much happier for you to receive him when he returns, knowing that you trust both him and the strength of your bond enough to let him have his space.

6. Physical Touch

Men need frequent non-sexual touch as well as a sense of sexual access.

If a man’s partner comes up behind him and touches his neck and hair in a loving way while he sits absorbed in a task, he could feel just as loved as if they had just had penetrative sex (even more so, depending on his mood).

This touch is interpreted as physical love- the message of which registering as “I love you, and I want you to feel happy all the time. Know that I’m always here for you and I care for you deeply.”

7. Security

Men and women are both attracted to certainty in a relationship. The more a man feels like his partner is in it for the long haul, the more ready and able he is to be able to open up to her (assuming he is equally invested in her).

But security goes deeper than just the fact that you won’t leave him. The security that he feels ties back in to several of these points. He feels secure in knowing that you approve of him and where he is in his career. He feels secure and loved when you touch him non-sexually throughout the day. He feels secure when he is allowed to have his guys’ nights away from you and you don’t feel the need to call or text him every half hour to check in.

And he feels secure with a partner who takes steps to love him in the way that he most need.

 

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Different types of kisses each Millennials should know.

Most of the time, we do things just for the sake of it, we never really cared what they mean, wanna take you through on some of the things came across when was surfing online during my afternoon break, it all about how you elevate one’s soul using your lips, you don’t need a formula this ain’t mofo physics n never worry about that i gotchuu you covered.

1. The Forehead Kiss

A kiss on the forehead is a gentle expression of admiration. Usually it is a kiss of friendship or a starter kiss for something for romantic later.

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2. Kiss on the Hand

This is when you grasp a persons hand with your fingers gently and kiss the back of the palm. It’s a chivalrous move and one that shows your admiration and passion for someone.

3. The French Kiss

The French Kiss involves plenty of tongue action and mastery.  It derives from passion, romance and desire so part of the trick is to just go with your emotions.

4. Single Lip Kiss

A subtle single lip kiss is where you suck and sandwich their lip between yours at the same time.

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5. Earlobe Kiss

This all encompassing kiss is targeting an erogenous zone for most so it’s kind of a big deal.

6. Butterfly Kiss

When two people get so close to each others face while they kiss that their eyelashes connect. This kind of kiss and it’s intimate gesture is for those madly infatuated or in love with each other.

7. The Spiderman Kiss

Perhaps this sensual kiss was in the mix before Spiderman came out with the epic kiss scene. This s less risky when doing horizontally on the couch or bed and is a kiss of passion between lovers

8. The Lingering Kiss

A lingering kiss entails a lot of lip to lip kissing for long periods of time. It’s full of intense emotion and passion and is often reserved for new love.

9. The Cheek Kiss

A short peck on the cheek, often in combination with a hand on the arm or a half embrace. it’s meanings are dependent on where u are in the world. For some cultures, it’s a hello or goodbye.

10. Lizard Kiss

This is where the tongue rapidly goes in and out of the mouth in quick strokes. It’s a passionate kiss for lovers that are hot and heavy into each other.

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11. Kiss of an Angel

This is a gentle kiss on someone’s eyelids. A sweet gesture bet. two people that deeply love each other.

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12. Seductive Kiss

This s where you bit an open mouth that’s much like a subtle French kiss (less tongue though). A kiss to win someone’s heart and seduce them. It will make anyone’s knees weak.

13. The Big Tease

You tease your partner while getting to explore their body with your lips starting from the forehead and making your way all the way down. One would say this is a very invested method of foreplay & dedicated to lovers.

14. The Eskimo Kiss

When two noses rub up against each other and move back and forth.

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15. The Vampire Kiss

A deep sexy kiss on the neck that includes sucking & a bit of biting. For lovers in an intimate setting.

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16. The Jaw Kiss

A kiss that is gentle and yet incredibly sensual as you kiss your partner’s jaw.

17. The Bite and Nibble

Subtle bites & nibbles on certain parts of a person’s facial features like nose, and a kiss on the neck. Deeply sensual kiss that is spontaneous bet. lovers and exudes intimacy & eroticism.

Now you know, go for that isssh, make your relationship beatiful as ART.

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Getting out from our comfort zone.

The Super man and Wonder woman in our social networks don’t really exist in our reality world…. The fake names, fake life, the inferiority to let ourselves lost in that world It’s not something to be proud of.

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The moment there are no comments in your social medias, no messages and no notification that’s when you start feeling down and lonely and see you have no importance but no Get Out From Your Comfort Zone!!!  Do something even small and at the end of the day you will be really proud of it.

I think we should all go for things we are passionate for, things that can drive us to limits. If you love to be online so much then do something productive about it, do YouTube and vlog, also blogging, do advertising in the social media much can be done with passion.

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And with this campaign much more are coming we are going to have different session of music, fashion, life style and much more. Let’s make this blog a social media full of anonymous who talks of everything and letting their hearts out without saying who you real are. Let’s share more and be awesome together.

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I want to challenge you today to get out of your comfort zone. You have so much incredible potential on the inside. God has put gifts and talents in you that you probably don’t know anything about – Joel Osteen

Shine Out Loud, Be You

Social media has created jealous behavior over illusions. Sadly some are envious of things, relationship & lifestyle that don’t even exist.

Most people on social media present the “best version” of who they are. Nobody really shares their darkest moments or the many hardships people go through. It gives the illusion that their life is “perfect” when in reality we all go through things that challenge us to do & become better.

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“How different would people act if they couldn’t show off on social media? Would they still do it?”
Donna Lynn Hope

Donna asks a very important question, what if we never had a chance to show off in social media what would it look like? same illusions still exist? Comparing your life to others has become so easy, a simple click that makes you feel like you’re not good enough, you’re not having as much fun, or your life might be boring. All of this comparison actually affects your self-esteem and confidence level. You lower your ability to grow, because you shun yourself. Reality is much deeper than what’s portrayed. It’s the internal states that most people are in.

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I know a few people who have everything most desire, but are empty and incomplete on the inside. To the outside world their life is “glamorous” but the reality of how they feel is completely different. So please understand that nobody can be you, better than yourself. Don’t buy into the illusion.AWESOME2

The person that has the most likes, might be the loneliest. The person who constantly shares their relationship, might have the most problems. The person who always “appears” to be the happiest might be the most depressed. You just don’t know.
Never judge and compare your life to others, you don’t know the depths of what one is going through. Appreciate yourself and work on being the best that you can be. Life is an internal experience. Live your truth.awesomely amaz

“Your comfort zone is a place where you keep yourself in a self-illusion and nothing can grow there but your potentiality can grow only when you can think and grow out of that zone.”
Rashedur Ryan Rahman

Life is too short for drama, be real be you.