What do Ladies look for in a Man?

For a start my likes keep on changing everyday, I used to love serious man and intelligent  but came to see that they are boring  then I went to those who are charming and lovely who can keep my smile but agghh! nikawachoka (got tired) jumped to the cute guys, trust me being seen with a cute guys it is entertaining I loved it ,the attention other girls give like looking at you, admiring it’s so cool Ila jameni hawa vijana wazuri ni maplayers hatari (just some  random Swahili words).

Truly, what do we look for? the hot guys, the serious and hot guys, the charming guys, or the successful guys? Do we look for what is inside them, their pure heart or what is in the outside? Is it true love or pass of time?


I saw this post and I thought, when they give us all we want do we strive for more or give them back the same love?


Love so pure does not need category, it comes with no reason and it is not scheduled when to be felt, it does not need brains or too much thinking just your heart and no other games~ Scholar ME (Tygres)

Did you have to go away?

Do I have to write about this? Do I have to pour my emotions here? Tears Ain’t coming and my heart is in pain. Is it pain or fear that tomorrow might be me or someone more close to me? Did you have to go away?

It was just yesterday a friend told me to write everything that comes to my mind, it’s me writing something painful now. We aim to reach our dreams but what if they are cut short, what if I live not aiming for the dreams, will it change? Shall I leave a reckless life or not caring about what tomorrow can bring? Did you have to go away?

It was your time yes we all have ours but we were still on the journey fighting to see the beautiful future, having a family, children and success. It was not simple from all school punishments, the exams, in short the school life was hell itself but then what remains now is memories that we had you. Did you have to go away?

Beautiful human, pretty face, cute smile and them brains that is all left to be remembered. Once upon a time there was me, you, him or her. This life ain’t ours forever, we should live happily, fight for what we love, enjoy everyday and have no regrets because we gat no many choices as we think. Make it right Make it happen so you can get the strength when its time and say, “ I have to go away now”.

By No One

Acha Maneno weka Muziki!!! (Stop the talking play the music…)

Muziki a Swahili word for music. The song Muziki of a Tanzanian musician Darrasa have been a lit song for some time now strange thing is first time hearing it I was like it’s nothing to make a fuss of but damn it bangs man.

Why I have it in this post? The lyrics “Acha maneno weka Muziki” meaning stop talking put the music on,,  made me use the song for this post…. At times we should let the music do its magic fellas. ( see this Muziki’s parody below )

Driving lonely having thoughts mmm drop the stress man put on some lit music .

You and your babe have nothing to talk about for a moment yap those silent moments put some music on to put you guys in the mood .. You know what am saying. ( Enjoy the music with lyrics )

Meeting with friends catching up but some time every one is in his phone or her phone, someone has to put music on it will light up the situation.

You better get out from this post and go put some Music on to cheer up our day…

Soshomidia is BAE

Did I just say soshomidia is bae?

Yes, damn right I did, whats up on those ends wherever your reading this, its chill Sunday, a lot to do and nothing so chill about this day… most of you are on soshomidia( is this a Swahili word for social media? tell me ) or just a phonetical beat of it idk?

Ooouuuuuuuh!! wanna find why word “bae” is this blogpost?

If you ask me, yes you didn’t ask but I will tell you anyway between Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, snapchat and all social networks Twitter is my most preferred platform were would spend my 60% of my free time, Tweeting my gawddamn thoughts, Retweeting some interesting stuff and ofcoz laughing at people who just won an L, trust me it’s so much fun but don’t play you get trolled…

But thats what wanted to share with you coz prolly know what went down on Twitter always has a way to dive through IG and Fb even in blogs like what tryna do with you… yes you.

There a Tweep I admire, based on what he always shares on those 140 characters, I find every tweet has a value in my life, never know why probably issa spiritual leader, seems to see beyond divine nature, what man desire and how everything rotates around human being.

He’s a person I go to when I need inspirations to write, whenever I read his tweet always get another idea based on his tweet, his name is Mufti Ismail Menk of Zimbabwe @muftimenk.

I read that Jana ( Swahili word for yesterday ) what I got from that people tend to think they know you based on tweet, picture they post online matter of fact, online life is all illusions and we make a lot imagination about others truth is people are struggling in real life just like how you are, never judge a person based on what you see on social media.

What Imam says, you are who you are never compare yourself with anyone everyone is unique in his/her way, be yourself, you have so much power in you never underestimate that.

I know someone, yes I know you, whatever happens to you post it on Fb, IG but you never really had balls to talk it out loud, this is bad because it will eat you up inside. be open talk about it will help put your mind at easy.

One thing I can tell you Imperfection is sexy.

Most of us fail to express our-selves in 140 characters, but its amazing what you/others can learn from those limited 140 characters, my point is lets use social media to inspire others, let your thought(s) be enlightenment for others, be the voice to others, most people can’t put their imagination pamoja (together) help them to see that in your post(s).

Tell me who inspires your online life? what pages do you follow? tell me

Remember sharing is caring ): you know what to do. Ciao


It’s me Digi Digi


Having Bad Mornings..

Those days were our mornings can just ruin our whole day. Yeah those days, had one today and it made me write this post because I can’t think of anything else rather than my day is already ruined and my mood is upset, things ain’t going right bla bla bla!

So guys what do you do when you having badmorning, what things can change our day, what should we do to change our mind into something productive and overcoming ruining our plans for the day.

Comment down below and we are open for discussion…

A little bit of touch touch!!!

Men are often reluctant to talk about their needs in intimate relationships.

Whether social conditioning or an inability to communicate our needs are to blame, men (who tend to be the less communicative partners in intimate relationships) are prone to silently suffering when their emotional needs aren’t being met by their partners.

Whether you are a man or a woman reading this article, this will give you greater clarity into yourself/partner and what your/their needs are in your intimate relationship.

Let’s put an end to the needless fighting due to miscommunication, the unnecessary sex-less nights, and the verbal shut-downs.

Read through these tips and I promise you’ll never see your relationship through the same lens again.

Here are seven things all men need in a relationship.

7 Things All Men Need In A Relationship

1. Praise And Approval

Men have infamously tender egos.

We need frequent reassurance about ourselves, our career paths, our efficacy as partners, our sexual prowess, and our attractiveness (among other things).

I have countless male clients telling me every month that their partners rarely let them know what they like about them.

While it may be true that men need relatively less frequent verbal praise than their female counterparts, this isn’t the kind of gesture that requires keeping score. Why not just have more of a good thing?

So ladies, let your praise loose. Tell your man exactly what you find attractive about him. Let him know what physical features of his are your favourites. Tell him how attractive you find it when he says something a certain way, when he accomplishes something, or when he takes you on a date. Your praise won’t make him cocky; it will help him feel loved.

And (bonus) the more you praise his positives, the more you will see them.

2. Respect

Men feel respect as love.

If he feels like you disapprove of him, his career, or the things that he believes to be integral to who he is as a person, he will have a hard time trusting and

loving you.

The thought process behind that being “If she doesn’t respect who I am at my core, then how can she really want what is best for me?”

If a man’s partner doesn’t respect his path or mission in life, then he will find it very difficult to feel other than an anxious need to distance himself from her.

3. A Sense Of Sexual Connection

Men and women both connect through sex and communication, but generally, women connect better through communication and men connect better through sex.

Does this mean that men need to have sex with their intimate partners every day in order to feel connected? Not necessarily.

Men, more often than not, connect through indicators of sexual access just as much as they do through sex.

Allow me to explain…

Often, a man will initiate sex just to make sure that you are still sexually available to him. So, to my man-loving readers out there, if he reaches across the bed for you, even showing the willingness to embrace him, to kiss him deeply, and to romantically engage him could be enough to make him feel loved (not that the follow through isn’t enjoyable).

This lack of awareness around women needing to connect through words and men needing to connect through sex can sometimes turn into an unfortunate and rapid downward spiral. She doesn’t feel like opening sexually until she feels connected to him, but he finds it difficult to communicate with her because they haven’t been physical with each other in days.

Talk with your partner and ask what specifically helps them feel the most loved so you can avoid these unintentional standoffs.

4. Emotional Intimacy

From a very young age, men are taught to avoid appearing weak at all costs. Perceived “weakness” includes things like complaining, divulging fears or concerns, and expressing self-doubt or worry.

A man’s partner is his safe space to fall. He can expose the cracks in his armour and allow his partner to help him heal.

Just as women need to slowly open up sexually within a relationship, men open up over time emotionally.

He needs to make sure that when he first cries in front of you, you won’t be repelled or handle it poorly. If you push him away or are unable to be nurturing when he needs it the most, he will no longer trust you with his emotions. He will remove himself somewhat from the relationship.

In this instance, both partners lose- he goes on silently suffering and believing that he is flawed in his imperfection, and she is held at arm’s length emotionally.

5. Space

Author Deborah Tannen has written brilliantly on the

masculine and feminine divide between independence and intimacy (masculine being primarily drawn towards independence and the feminine toward intimacy).

Within all of my relationships and the vast majority of my clients, I consistently see that it is the feminine-associated female partner that wants more time spent together and the masculine-associated male partner wanting more time apart. There is no perfect balance to be found here. This will always be a balancing act of closeness and separateness.

But rest assured, suffocating a man (either by failing to allow him free time or with overly jealous behaviour) is the fastest way to end a relationship. Men need breathing room in a relationship. We need time for our hobbies, time with our friends, and time to toil away on our projects to feel fulfilled.

Traditionally, when women (or the feminine associated partner) needed to solve a problem, they would go further into the tribe – connecting with close friends and family and discussing their issues. Conversely, when men have a problem to solve, they would leave the tribe to be alone with their thoughts.

So let him roam. Let him breathe. Leave him to his own devices. A man will be that much happier for you to receive him when he returns, knowing that you trust both him and the strength of your bond enough to let him have his space.

6. Physical Touch

Men need frequent non-sexual touch as well as a sense of sexual access.

If a man’s partner comes up behind him and touches his neck and hair in a loving way while he sits absorbed in a task, he could feel just as loved as if they had just had penetrative sex (even more so, depending on his mood).

This touch is interpreted as physical love- the message of which registering as “I love you, and I want you to feel happy all the time. Know that I’m always here for you and I care for you deeply.”

7. Security

Men and women are both attracted to certainty in a relationship. The more a man feels like his partner is in it for the long haul, the more ready and able he is to be able to open up to her (assuming he is equally invested in her).

But security goes deeper than just the fact that you won’t leave him. The security that he feels ties back in to several of these points. He feels secure in knowing that you approve of him and where he is in his career. He feels secure and loved when you touch him non-sexually throughout the day. He feels secure when he is allowed to have his guys’ nights away from you and you don’t feel the need to call or text him every half hour to check in.

And he feels secure with a partner who takes steps to love him in the way that he most need.




By Author & Dr 

Different types of kisses each Millennials should know.

Most of the time, we do things just for the sake of it, we never really cared what they mean, wanna take you through on some of the things came across when was surfing online during my afternoon break, it all about how you elevate one’s soul using your lips, you don’t need a formula this ain’t mofo physics n never worry about that i gotchuu you covered.

1. The Forehead Kiss

A kiss on the forehead is a gentle expression of admiration. Usually it is a kiss of friendship or a starter kiss for something for romantic later.

11 types of kisses

2. Kiss on the Hand

This is when you grasp a persons hand with your fingers gently and kiss the back of the palm. It’s a chivalrous move and one that shows your admiration and passion for someone.

3. The French Kiss

The French Kiss involves plenty of tongue action and mastery.  It derives from passion, romance and desire so part of the trick is to just go with your emotions.

4. Single Lip Kiss

A subtle single lip kiss is where you suck and sandwich their lip between yours at the same time.

5 types of kisses

5. Earlobe Kiss

This all encompassing kiss is targeting an erogenous zone for most so it’s kind of a big deal.

6. Butterfly Kiss

When two people get so close to each others face while they kiss that their eyelashes connect. This kind of kiss and it’s intimate gesture is for those madly infatuated or in love with each other.

7. The Spiderman Kiss

Perhaps this sensual kiss was in the mix before Spiderman came out with the epic kiss scene. This s less risky when doing horizontally on the couch or bed and is a kiss of passion between lovers

8. The Lingering Kiss

A lingering kiss entails a lot of lip to lip kissing for long periods of time. It’s full of intense emotion and passion and is often reserved for new love.

9. The Cheek Kiss

A short peck on the cheek, often in combination with a hand on the arm or a half embrace. it’s meanings are dependent on where u are in the world. For some cultures, it’s a hello or goodbye.

10. Lizard Kiss

This is where the tongue rapidly goes in and out of the mouth in quick strokes. It’s a passionate kiss for lovers that are hot and heavy into each other.

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11. Kiss of an Angel

This is a gentle kiss on someone’s eyelids. A sweet gesture bet. two people that deeply love each other.

7 types of kisses

12. Seductive Kiss

This s where you bit an open mouth that’s much like a subtle French kiss (less tongue though). A kiss to win someone’s heart and seduce them. It will make anyone’s knees weak.

13. The Big Tease

You tease your partner while getting to explore their body with your lips starting from the forehead and making your way all the way down. One would say this is a very invested method of foreplay & dedicated to lovers.

14. The Eskimo Kiss

When two noses rub up against each other and move back and forth.

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15. The Vampire Kiss

A deep sexy kiss on the neck that includes sucking & a bit of biting. For lovers in an intimate setting.

3 types of kisses

16. The Jaw Kiss

A kiss that is gentle and yet incredibly sensual as you kiss your partner’s jaw.

17. The Bite and Nibble

Subtle bites & nibbles on certain parts of a person’s facial features like nose, and a kiss on the neck. Deeply sensual kiss that is spontaneous bet. lovers and exudes intimacy & eroticism.

Now you know, go for that isssh, make your relationship beatiful as ART.

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